As a Gen X Instructional Technologist I've always considered myself a some what "NetGen" living in the body of a GenX'er. I compare myself my other Gen Xer's...and I am more immersed in technology than most. I laugh at my GenX friends who think FB is ridiculous and don't even talk to them about Twitter. By far the easiest way to get in touch with me is texting or IM and even those I don't always feel the need to address. Email?...forget it...its getting up there with my Voicemail that I check, maybe once a month. I mean really, let's face it I've always considered myself a NetGen living in the body of a GenXer and I have the 10 email addresses, 5 IM accounts, Twitter, iPhone Apps, and unlimited data plan to prove it!
Alas, this weekend I was handed a mirror and lo and behold...there I was...definitely NOT a NetGen(Gen Y). It would seem accounts and data plans aside, the wrinkles have won in the end! Turns out, no matter how tech savvy I may be...it seems I am NOT a NetGen living in the body of a GenXer...I am not caught between two generations...clearly I am a full blown GenXer.
The mirror was handed to me by two 13 year olds at a bowling alley. It revealed the photoshopped; delusional existence I have been living under. The mirror shattered when I heard myself saying things like "really?", "why?" "isn't it just easier..." and the worst comment of them all "that doesn't make any sense!" I heard myself saying it to these two young teenagers and I cringed as I said them but I couldn't help it...I simply could not!
There we were, 8 of us...in a busy bowling alley. TV's, bowling, food, kids running around screaming, cheering, music, etc ...all the while these two girls, sat, side by side, fervently texting, not uttering a word to anyone. There they sat texting away, fast as can be...with a giggle or laugh here and there...when their turn came, they got up bowled and sat back down and resumed texting away. While this undistracted activty was amazing in itself, the biggest shock came when I said to a mom..."are they texting boys or what?" Mom turns to me and laughs. "No! They are texting each other." I was stunned silent. This zoomed through my mind and all I could intelligently retort was "what?!" Mom continued "yeah, this is what they do, all the time, they sit and text each other." I stared, dumbfounded. I watched for some time...sure enough, not a word was issued, mutual laughing maybe, not even a look to each other, they were 100% focused on their text conversation, I don't think they ever uttered a word to each other until I interrupted them.
"So, excuse me?" I interrupted their texting....
"are you two texting each other?" I'm sure my face was not shy about my disbelief.
"Yeah" I got, completely uninterested in talking about it.
"Wait, really? Why?" I cringed as I said it but it just came out.
"Why not? We're bored." They said barely looking up.
Bored? I thought? I looked around me...there were some 10 TV's on the walls, they both had plates of food they hadn't eaten, their sister was bowling, and my adorable 3 year old was cheering her on, bored? Really?
"So, but wouldn't it just be easier to..I don't know, talk to each other?" Again, I cringed as I spoke.
I could hear my parents from way back when in the back of my head back when my brother and I would play each other in Frogger for hours on end and my parents would shamefully say "don't you want to go outside?" "how can this be fun for you?" Yet there I was compelled by this completely foreign sense of boredom and bizarre interpersonal activity.
They laughed at me and awkwardly looked at each other..."this is more fun."
There you have it...it is more fun. I stared. Humbled by lack of understanding.
As I'm sure they fervently texted about the old lady totally "not getting it." I have to say...they're right. I don't. Turns out "all the time" meant all the time...when they go to each others houses to "play" they sit on the couch and text each other, when they go out with friends, they travel in packs and text each other. I knew texting was in...I just didn't realize it was in replacement of all interpersonal activity, even when sitting shoulder to shoulder in a social environment. How old do I feel? I thought was was so hip in my texting...and I have occasionally texted my husband from another room but never while sitting next to him on the couch! Conversation, apparently, is so last century! I had no idea.
I watched and imagined years ahead on their prom dates as their date sits next to them in the limo and texts "your dress looks nice" or years further along when they are married and at the dinner table...a text chimes in "can you pass the salt dear?" Yes, I definitely don't get it.
Amazement aside, if all bowling at Dave & Busters as an activity finds them bored...what hope have we in education? Truly I wonder? Hand me that mirror again, I need to look and see what else I've been missing.